Becoming comfortable with who you are






Being on a Spiritual Path, working with a Teacher, going to therapy, participating in 12-Step, doing Shadow Work only succeeds to the degree you participate, to the degree you can be honest and your ability to not run away when the "work" or Path becomes challenging. Working with a Teacher or therapist is like going to the gym All the equipment will be there but it is up to you to use it......or not.

One of the biggest challenges in soul evolution and human growth is the ability to face, feel and stay with uncomfortable feelings and to discuss them with your mentor or support group rather than run away in a huff, leave or ghost in order to"punish" the other person for daring to give you the guidance and feedback you have been so desperate to receive. Image presentation is rampant in this era with the concerns of social media outweighing the desire for personal growth and it has become increasingly difficult for people to be honest with themselves, never mind with others. The weight of the current culture bears down demanding you "look good" no matter what and the culture of toxic positivity has become a breeding ground for the growth of  manipulative narcissistic tendencies.

If you want to grow, you cannot hide, runaway or ghost. Instead of these actions, consider growing strong in self-care skills which is needed for all relationships in life, all situations in life and even to work with the energetic Guidance of Source. Learn to stay while practicing self-care. Learn to discuss. This will require what feels to you like emotional risk taking. Responsible thoughtful risk taking is another unavoidable life skill.

Below are links to valuable informational material to read and watch. But remember, you will still have to be the one to have the courage to take action to become braver, more honest and more of an authentic person.

Journey On
Dr.. Marie
Life Path Healings, Yucaipa CA
MarieFeuer.Org


Some excellent resources to watch and read:

Bene Brown Listening to Shame, TED Talks Video

Accountability is not Shaming: Dr. Feuer

Book: The honest truth about dishonesty

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