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What do to, and when?

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What to do and when? Hahaha. Good luck on this one. As if there is an answer. Some people live by “if you wait, it will come”. Some believe you must consciously intend and manifest (because Spirit is sleeping on the job?).   Some believe it must “feel good” or it is bad for you. (Well heroin “feels” great…. So what does that mean?). One answer for sure is that there is no one answer when it comes to personal growth and Soul Evolution. In fact one can only hope that you realize every article I write is from my truth(s) and if you find it helpful that is wonderful. And if you find these articles annoying, then hopefully you will disregard and move on. Take the best and leave the rest as is said in 12-Step programs. Your Life Path was designed by you and your Guides for you to evolve as a Soul. This means everyone is on a Spiritual Path, whether they know it or not, whether they believe in spirituality or not. No one “has to” work on his/herself. Life is the ultimate Teach

Making Direct Amends and New Behaviors

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Making Direct Amends and New Behaviors Making amends is not only a crucial part of recovery programs, it is a crucial part of living life as an awakened person who lives with mindfulness, self-awareness, and self-care that includes nurturing your self-esteem and self-value by living with personal ethics and integrity. Amends also include amends to your Self. The purpose of amends is to heal yourself, your heart and your integrity. Amends is not about getting someone to forgive you, or be in a relationship with you again or to even talk to you again. In fact, in some cases the damage you caused may not be reversible and you may not be able to be addressed directly and you will have to find a way to make indirect amends to heal your heart and the other person will never know. Praying to Spirit or your Higher Power for forgiveness has nothing to do with amends. Acting like you are the victim because someone will not let you close enough to make amends has nothing to do with recov

Trauma Bonding in Friendships

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Trauma bonding in friendships Signs of Trauma Bonding When you continue to be fixated on people who hurt you and who are no longer in your life. When you crave contact with someone who has hurt you and who you know will cause you more pain. When you continue to revolve around people who you know are taking advantage of you or exploiting you. When you are committed to remaining loyal to someone who has betrayed you, even though their actions indicate few signs of change. When you are desperate to be understood, validated, or needed by those who have indicated they do not care about you. When you go to great lengths to continue to help, care-take, or consider people who have been destructive to you. There is a constant pattern of nonperformance. Your friend or partner continues to make promises only to break them consistently. There might be a boatload of apologies however there is no change in their act