Afraid to Live your life
Afraid to live your life If you grew up in a household that devalued you either through emotional neglect or abuse, or physical or sexual abuse, until you heal you are at the effects of toxic shame. Toxic shame means you feel you, your very being is “wrong”, defective, broken, beyond redemption, not worth it. Until you heal, and often even after healing because of the permanent scars you live with, you will often seek out ways to be “right”, to live the right way, to do the right thing. This does make you susceptible to cults whose leaders love to tell people the “right” way to live. You might join the military, or read extensively on Buddhism and try to plaster on those beliefs on top of your rotting corpse in a last ditch attempt to feel better, to feel like you belong somewhere because you certainly did not belong to the hearts of your parents. This does not mean every military person or Buddhist is wounded by the way. This article is meant to speak to those who on a fai