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Your Spiritual Teacher as your Enemy

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Your Spiritual Teacher as your Enemy In psychology, therapists are trained (but not always good at) handling “transference” behavior of clients/patients. At least they receive the training. Healers, Readers, and Spiritual Teachers do not which is detrimental for both Practitioners and those who come to them for services. What is transference?   When people go to healers, mainstream, alternative, or Spiritual, they are hurt, in psychological, emotional or spiritual pain (sometimes manifesting as physical pain).   People mainly are “hurt” by other people, those in their lives where there are emotional connections.   When emotional connections are damaged (real or imagined), people feel hurt, betrayed, abandoned and many other feelings. When seeking healing or teachings (in whatever modality) those feelings of hurt that originated in childhood get transferred to healers and other “authority figures”. The healer becomes the perpetrator by proxy and the student/patient/client will

I Visited the Grand Canyon but All I Saw was Mule Poop

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I Visited the Grand Canyon but All I Saw was Mule Poop Most people make completely unconscious choices regarding where they place their attention, and on the internal stories they are telling themselves.   Every second of life, we place our attention somewhere.   You look at your back yard and see all the dog poop and weeds. You look at your back yard and notice the hummingbirds are there and the smell of jasmine is in the air. The poop and weeds are still there. Some make a quick mental note to clean up the yard while smiling at the beauty present. Others never notice the hummers and the jasmine. While others notice neither, consumed with the future, they sigh in sadness that they do not have a Jacuzzi or a vegetable garden and walk away without cleaning up what needs to be cleaned, or enjoying what they do have in the garden at this very moment. And there are those that walk into the garden, and this sparks a past memory of a beloved cat that used to sun in the garden and has

The Curse of Success

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The Curse of Success In my classes and private sessions I have mentioned that I have experienced more people falling apart even to the point of a breakdown when “all (or many, or even a few) of their dreams come true.”   I have seen this happen with success a hundred times more than when someone is struggling with loss, setbacks, or failures.   I have seen this even with small “wins” such as when people lose weight, especially if it is a great deal of weight. They cannot handle the “win” and either put the weight back on almost immediately or find a way to self-destruct.   People leave therapy the moment after a huge break through, or someone finally meets “the love of his/her live” and cheats (for the first time ever) and “manages” to get caught. 12-Steppers work diligently on the discovery part of their journey, digging up family history, old pains and memories, then stop going to meetings when on the threshold of the “recovery” part of the journey where one puts new behavio