Guidance: Not for everyone

Sometimes people contact me (or the public) to tell me how wrong I am—not for just for them or their one experience —  but in general. I am not sure how they know that I am “wrong” …. Market research? Polling ?  While doing a Reading a few years ago I told the person in front of me that she had Russian military in her ancestry (and that was currently influencing her in this life). I told her this and she vehemently told me I was dead wrong.  Those moments are awkward.  Weeks later, (in a rare occurrence) the person contacted me again to say that in researching her family tree, she discovered there was indeed Russian military in her background.

This is not about me being right… or wrong…. It is about how to get a Reading, or assistance from any source.  While we don’t want to simply accept what someone tells us, we do need the ability to keep an open mind.  How else do we hear new information—especially if it threatens our current belief system!  When seeking assistance from someone, we need to know what we are looking for, our priorities and our limitations so we can make an effective decision in our selection of a helper person. In some cases we simply want validation for our perceptions….if that is the case, we should look for someone who will tell us what we want or need to hear. Often we can use friends for that, rather than a trained professional. Or turn to your spirit guides for validation (the ones that "talk" to you in language rather than Energy which is the language of Source).

In therapy, when someone is hurt by what is said, that is always an indicator that a nerve was hit-- some truth was touched upon, some hidden fear revealed.  And often when an emotion comes up in therapy that is uncomfortable or challenging that is when the person stops therapy and often criticizes or blames therapist. Getting triggered is a sign that you are wounded. When you are integrated in an area of your life or being-ness, you do not get triggered.   If, for example, someone told me I was selfish and mean, I would have to laugh or shrug my shoulders. That would be someone's perception and they have a right to have it. That comment would not hurt as there is absolutely no truth to it. And I am free to examine the statement with no big emotional charge.

If someone tells you information that is dead wrong for you, I would think you would be laughing in amazement at how bad or unskilled the person is. Not get mad.  If you get mad, look to your own mind—that pain is from you. 

For example, I am not a positive motivational speaker. It is not my job to tell people what they want to hear. I channel from other sources and at times (while praying during a session) I am begging for another message telling Guides, “If I say that the person is going to hate me!” and I am told, “say it or tell him/her you cannot help them--- there is no other message.”  Giving Readings can be very challenging. There is not much room for ego. One has to stay centered on the reality one is simply the conduit for messages from a Higher Source, often saying things one doesn’t understand, but the recipient does understand as a message for him/her.

I complain to my Guides, that if I told people more of what they wanted to hear I would be richer. They laugh; they don’t care about those kinds of riches.