Caring Communications
It is quite a common occurrence to hear people talk about experiences using the word "you" instead of "I". Why is that? Many people avoid "I" statements in order to not have to confront their own feelings on a situation or issue or to avoid making themselves vulnerable in any fashion. In some way I can understand this. When I have shared some posts on Facebook using the "I" perspective, I have received rather desperate responses telling me how to fix "me" or my situation, as if sharing my experience, strength and hope is a cry for help even when there is no hint of request for help in the text. A dialogue that uses "you" statements as a response to someone else’s sharing immediately makes that person pay attention to you, rather than being able to stay with their own feelings and thoughts. A “you” statement makes the other people take care of you. Now people have to change focus to think about what you just said...