Life Path Healings with Dr Marie Feuer

Spirituality and Childhood Abuse Children have few protections. Cognitive development and the ability to think critically comes with neuron growth (provided that is not inhibited by abuse and/or neglect) starting around 11 years old with some variation based on individual environment and genetics.   This means that before this neuron growth, children have no mental capability that could help them either understand abuse or protect themselves. Abuse is experienced directly as “I must be bad” “There is something wrong with me” and “I am not worth loving.”   Because there are no cognitive filters, these beliefs become imprinted as “truth” especially if the abuse happens in the pre-verbal years. Abuse that happens in the pre-cognitive years can rarely be treated successfully with cognitive therapies as the experiences happened before brain development necessary to address issues cognitively. Spiritual, energetic and body therapies are needed in addition to talk therap...

On being specific. How to avoid your life. Whenever I have someone in a session for spiritual evolution, I receive a detailed report of everything that the person thinks is wrong with him/her, every transgression, dates, times, places, what was said, even the weather and what people were wearing. When I ask, “what is working in your life” or “what progress have you been making,” if I get any information at all it is generic minimization or generic grandiosity.   “I was amazing last week.” No descriptions of actual behavior, or mention of history with a specific explanation of how progress had been made. Or, “I sucked,” again with no specifics, just an opinion. It is hard to evolve, to change, harder than staying stuck which is why people usually stay stuck until they are in excruciating pain (emotional, physical, or both). Not only is hard to change and evolve, it is even more difficult to sustain. Look at how many people “know” about a good diet and the benefits of ex...

Perfectionism and OCD—Obsessive Compulsive Defensiveness When you are not in a good relationship with your Self, and Spirit, one tends to be very defensive. You are defensive because you feel you are alone in your world. Neither your Higher Self nor Spirit are perceived as your best friends. If you are not in good relationship with yourself, it is because you are, on some level, ashamed of yourself. If you are ashamed of yourself, you will hide from others, and attack any who try to get too close to you. When people have deep rooted shame, they are overly sensitive in those shame areas, overreact, and are overly defensive.   Shame makes you constantly feel guilty and makes you want to hide yourself from others. What better way to hide then to attack, be defensive. Overly defensive or reactionary behavior can be classified as a form of obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), however it might be better to label this version as Obsessive Compulsive Defensiveness.   The ...

The Light and Dark of Living like Victim Many people suffer abuse as children. Abuse can be acute, such as rape, physical beatings, death of a parent, surviving an earthquake or flood. Abuse can be chronic; living with an alcoholic or mentally ill parent, benign neglect (often of the wealthy or career driven), growing up in a war zone.   As children, you have to make any decision you can to stay alive, to survive both physically and emotionally. This can range from learning to become invisible, to becoming “loveable” so you do not attract any “unwanted” attention, to becoming violent yourself (kill or be killed) and a million other defensive variations in between. As a child, there is no blame or shame in choosing survival at any cost, with any behavior. However, if you choose to continue these behaviors as an adult, you pass on the legacy of dysfunction.   Choosing opposite behaviors, such as “I was beaten” so I will not beat my children or I was ignored so I will no...