Light Workers light up... your own inner flame

Many "new age" or spiritual people seem so anxious to not be in their own body, or be ..... who they incarnated to be. Hours are spent talking to angels, entities, spirits while the body inhabited is neglected, childhood issues ignored, current fears repressed. There is a kind of codependency, where one focuses solely on another, to be a helper. This makes one feel good about one's self and to be proud of our actions and our self appointed priorities. Being a self appointed helper also releases one from responsibilities such as feeling one's own emotions (and handling them).  The "helper" is also freed from any criticism (from self or others)--- after all, the helper person is sooooooo good, and only had good intentions. How can we criticize?  And finally, the helper person can always cry victim (after all I've done for you.....) rather than making a balanced assessment of one's actions or reactions.

There can be a great deal of  ego in being a "helper" -- especially a self appointed helper.  It creates a false propping up of the ego and a fragile sense of self that is built on the external and often controlling results that can be measured by "how much one helped someone." All of this "helping" is based on achieving results that look good including most of all the reactions of the "other" that is receiving the help (whether they want it  or asked for it, or not). This is primarily a Western concept, or perhaps we should say, ailment.

When one is invested in being a helper, there is a great deal of pressure both internally and externally to produce good results in the moment. To look good, is to feel good. If you read the accounts of Eastern teachings, often the guru goes to extreme measures to help a student "wake up" or advance spiritually. These actions look "crazy" and in fact would not be tolerated in the West.  Yet the outcomes are spectacular. It takes an incredible imagination and lack of ego to move a human off of his or her current position of being stuck or being "right" in order to help the person advance spiritually.  Most in the West are not willing to do that, especially if they make a living  via clients. (Eastern gurus trust Spirit to take care of income, food, etc.). In the East, teachers work on their own self by having a strong disciplined daily spiritual practice.  If students come or go, that is not their concern.

When we work on our self, we make ourselves a better tool to be used by Spirit. Just shifting our own energy (with a practice-- not the practice of helping others but a practice of self-enlightenment and self growth/development) affects all around us-- people, animals, the environment. This is a precept of quantum physics-- change the orbit of one electron and the entire substance changes. The electron does not need to go out and "help" the other electrons to change.

We need more people taking responsibility for their own growth and development. Take daily inventory of your actions and attitudes, make daily amends to your self and others. Strengthen your own spiritual connection. Eat healthy and care for your body. Clean your house (internally and externally). Then let Spirit place you where Spirit thinks you will do the most good-- whether that means you are a mom, a janitor or a doctor.


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