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Honesty of Choice. Your invested energy, time and money.

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Honesty of   Choice. Your invested energy, time and money. Looking, honestly, at how you spend your time, energy and money (money is a symbol of energy invested—you are paid for your time and energy) can be an essential tool in spiritual development and personal growth. “I don’t have the money” is probably the most global response people use to get out of doing something they don’t want to do.   And it is a fine excuse to use. No one can argue with it. However, most people are in denial of where and how they spend their time and how much they invest in activities other than personal spiritual development.  Most people prefer to present themselves as a victim of circumstance rather than take responsibility for their choices. The excuse of “I can’t afford it” can become a blurred line where you lose a sense of what is actually true for you versus when you are using it as a way to lie to yourself. What started out as a way to get out of situations with others can, a...

How do you know you are getting "better"?

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 How do you know you are “getting better”? Industrialized culture is obsessed with “receiving,” “getting,” more, better, validations. A giant maw, an endless pit, a vacuum of neediness that can never be filled but which does fill the need of occupying one’s mind, demanding endless attention, endless shopping, and keeping one from feeling feelings, or connecting with Spirit. On social media you never seek people celebrating one’s depression, or grief, even though these are typically pre-cursors to some enormous leap in one’s Spiritual and emotional evolution. In fact, social media mavens typically downplay or even hide any occurrences that might blemish their carefully constructed public image of being open and transparent. In the beginning of writing these articles I used to use “I” instead of “you” or “one’s” with the idea (as per 12-step programs) of sharing one’s experience, strength and hope. I had to stop because I kept receiving a barrage of “let me help you”   ...

Selfless Giving

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Selfless Giving People give for many reasons, often the reasons are not balanced or healthy however, it sure “looks good” in the public eye to be a “giver.” People give as a way of control. They offer to do things for others or for organizations as this puts them “in the middle” of what is happening and forces others to come to them for advice, or to check in with procedures etc. It makes them feel important and gives them a (false) purpose in life. It also can be a way for people to have something to talk about (gossip really) by inserting themselves into what they imagine as the “inner circle” of some other person’s or organization’s business. Many people create an identity for themselves by “being close” to someone they have decided is important, or amazing. In the music industry this used to be called being a groupie.   In that industry, sex was usually involved, but this also happens in the “guru” industry as well where people have sex with a guru as a way to insinuat...