The Secret of "The Secret"

The nonsense of the  new age "laws of attraction"

The movie “The Secret” spread like a virus across the developed nations.  Yes there is a law of attraction, but it has nothing to do with your conscious mind. If it did, all the new age gurus would be rich without working, thin without dieting, have muscles without working out and in love with a perfect mate without having to use any relationship skills. Study your new age gurus; see what you can learn about their biography if they haven’t already altered it to make them look good. I promise that what you will find will not be the life they are selling, because it simply does not exist. The conscious mind (your wishful thinking, your conscious desires and appetites etc.) does not run your life, even mainstream psychology knows this.

We know the conscious mind is only 10% of our thoughts and feelings, and while unconscious mind is reckoned as a synonym for subconscious, the two are, in fact, quite different from each other. The thoughts, feelings, ideas, and memories that are loathsome or too painful for the conscious mind are locked away in the unconscious mind. This material is rejected by the conscious mind because of their disturbing nature, and is deliberately stored in the unconscious by the conscious mind. The contents stored in the unconscious mind are not necessarily negative, but definitely powerful, and unlike the subconscious mind it cannot be easily accessed.

The contents of the unconscious mind, despite being unacceptable aren't discarded from our mental being and it continues to influence us on a subliminal level. The material in the unconscious mind can be further divided into the personal subjective unconscious and collective unconscious. The perssonal unconscious mind stores the feelings that were once conscious but were forcefully subdued typically due to pain and trauma. The collective unconscious contains the accumulated genetic information and experiences of the ancestral history of your family that you carry with you. The collective unconscious also typically stores pain and trauma of generations including such material as being a slave or a slave owner, rape, political prosecution, genocide, war, etc.

The conscious mind is a very small part of what influences our decision making process, our mental health and our emotional well-being. The subconscious mind is the part of conscious mind that continuously stores information and controls our reactions based on our experiences and emotions associated with someone or something. Meaning the present time incidents, events and relationships can trigger you based on what is unknown to you in your subconscious mind.  The subconscious mind is that part of the mental being that holds information, however deep, yet approachable. It is something as easy as remembering your address when you are not even thinking about it. You are able to remember your address as you direct your focus on it. However, this is not the same for the unconscious mind. The subconscious mind can only be brought forward for healing with the use of some psychological practices as well as some forms of Spiritual Practice. 

The conscious mind is always ruled by the subconscious and both are ruled by the unconscious mind. You cannot access the unconscious mind with conscious efforts such as affirmations, creating intent, or trying to manifest. Therefore the nonsense promoted by the "new age" billion dollar unregulated industry might be able to work for a bit, like a pain killer might work for a temporary fix on a wound, however over time, the unconscious mind, your unhealed wounds and unidentified karma, will continue to surface and run your life. 

The unconscious mind can only be addressed through techniques such as deep hypnosis or profound meditation practices. Practices to “feel good” or to calm yourself etc. will work, but only for a small amount of time.  You can get addicted to feel good practices and this is one of the reasons why cults “work”. New age type workshops, and cults provide endless exercises, events, inspirational talks and practices to get their practitioners to “feel good”.  Cults are painkillers and the new age industry has become cult-like in its offerings of feel good events and “do this and this will happen” offerings. Ultimately, the unexamined and unhealed material in both the subconscious and unconscious mind will rise again, and rule you, your decisions, your choices and preferences, your emotional reactions, your life.

The real secret is that Source, the Universe, will give you what you need. This means sometimes you will “attract” lessons (meaning be given to you by the Universe because you are now ready for it) and sometimes you will “attract” comfort and/or encouragement. If you hog tie the Universe with affirmations, intentions and manifesting the Universe will be forced to send you what you need, in the form you insist upon. If you need a lesson in intimacy and are busy manifesting it, describing what you want down to the last detail, praying for it, making a vision board etc., your love mate will be given to you, exactly as you described. However you will soon discover as you bite into the candy, the lesson buried inside.  

New Age fanatics will spin a narrative when you don't get what you want. "You had negative thoughts or emotions" or any other number of reasons that make it your fault for you not getting what you want, when you want it (doesn't that indeed sound like a child !).  Those who choose to embrace a deeper Spiritual Path lead by Source, not lower body desires or human only teachers, will always examine what happened in order to learn, not to save their ego or impress others. The reality is if you pursue a Spiritual Practice and Path that works with acceptance and surrender of Source as your Guide (not spirits that talk to  you in regular albeit impressive conversations) your lessons will roll in with a great deal of harmony, be smoother and easier to handle with lots of Guidance. Why is that? Because you are not insisting on getting what you want which forces Spirit to package the lesson in the form you demand (a soul mate, a “career” as some kind of new age healer or teacher, etc.).

There are psychological therapies that offer profound work in particular Parts Work (Internal Family Systems -IFS) which also acknowledges and includes work with entities (from other dimensions or worlds) and Spirit Guides and the profound influences of what we inherit through our genetic ancestry (ancestral legacies). However even IFS work does not include deep work on the Spiritual aspects of development, in particular the evolution of the soul, your soul. Soul Evolution occurs every lifetime. Whether you embrace the work of Soul Evolution or not, it still, like aging, happens. The only question is how. Some people for example like to work on their health, others let health “happen” and deal with it when forced to do so often via trauma or when forced to take medication or have surgery.  

Some of us choose to pursue Soul Evolution rather than let it happen. If you are one of those, you will need to work with energies above your current level of consciousness, energies that your conscious mind simply cannot access with left brain gyrations. You will need to embrace a spiritual practice in order for you to be able to access the higher sources that speak only in the language of energy.

This is the work that makes Life Path Healings unique. Here we work with psychology, physical health and well being, ancestral and cultural burdens and past life wounds, entity attachment and most of all the deep work of connecting with the energies that surround you and are here to help you in this life (and more). Learning to access the profound energetic field, silent of language, stories or visions takes some practice and skill. In the silence you will find and be able to receive the mystic guidance that is unique to each person. 

Finding a person who's own  energetic cultivation is strong enough, powerful enough, to be able to take you into "the field" so you  can then learn to go there on your own, is a rare gift. In my 50 years of practice, studying many "paths" with many teachers (having one main teacher for the past 40 years) I have had only two that access "the field" (or the God Consciousness if your prefer--language  here is imperfect) by sitting with me in the "silence" that completely shifts my world, my reality.  And this is what I share.

It takes a bit to experience. Unhealed wounds will surface. Fear of emotions will block. A compulsive need to "know" or "explain" will interfere. Be patient and trust the process. Each person is different.

Journey On
Dr. Marie