The Flow or The Chase..... Which is better?

Going with the flow.... Yin energy.  Going for "it"-- no fear, just do it..... Yang energy.  Which one is better? How do we know which is the "correct" choice? What are we "supposed" to do?  We read stories of people who never give up, break the mold, and "make it."  In fact, we worship those stories in the USA. Then there are the stories of how some opportunity came and "got" someone, often seen as a divine choosing. So many people want psychic Readings to make sure they are doing "it" "right."

There is no right !  We are all here for different reasons, different journeys, different lessons, different evolutionary goals. Some are here to learn to be assertive, others to learn surrender. Some to learn how to be alone, or poor, others to be wildly materialistically successful. An important word here is....."learn."  Everybody learns differently, and everybody makes mistakes when learning. That is one of the identifying markers of learning.... we make mistakes. When we have mastery, mistakes are few and the majority of the time we function smoothly as we have mastered skills, etc.

Our lessons were set up, by us and our Divine Guides, before we incarnated. We wanted to learn what we are learning. But like all learning, there is usually a point where we say...."really?"  It happens in the middle of delivering a first child, or in the middle of a marathon, or the middle of getting a degree. It usually happens in the middle of EACH lesson-- and we come here to learn many lessons.

How to cope? To  make "good" choices?   When people ask me about, for example, where to live....often thinking a move will make things "better," my response is, well, the lesson is happening and will continue to happen until you learn. Do you want to learn while living at home with friends and family to support you? Do you want to learn while in nature or at the beach? Do you want to learn while working hard and making money? Do you want to learn while in a retreat?  We cannot change the lesson we already chose and committed to....but we can choose how we will go through our lessons.

Self care does not mean buying stuff or eating or vacationing to distract our self from uncomfortable feelings or challenges. Self care means learning deeply about the Self, like you would an infant child, so you can provide the best conditions for that indivicual to thrive -- under any circumstance -- peaceful or challenging. Just like with children, we care for them so they will be strong and know love. If we coddle them too much, over protect, over distract, children (and pets and ourselves) will become disabled, which in turn will make them (and our self) less able to take on lessons as a fun and challenging obstacle course. It also tends to dull out the being so s/he is incapable of enjoying what life has to offer.  Dulling one's self out, either by over indulgence or too much neglect, dulls out all sensations, emotions and perceptions. You cannot just shut down one emotion without paying the price of shutting down other feelings as well as your intuition which is deeply tied to feelings.

When in the middle of a lesson or challenge, you get to choose how to take it on.  Be aggressive, go for the "just do it " vibe, or take it slow and soft.  Yang or Yin -- in any combination--choose what supports you emotionally and spiritually at the time. And each time will be different.  There is no "right" way, only your way. However taking action based on Guidance, rather than being reactive and acting out of fear or ego or other earthly pressures, will always take to through your lessons and challenges via a Higher Path.

This is why personal spiritual (and emotional and physical) cultivation is such a gift.  Cultivation strengthens our intuition, and our connection to Divine Guidance. This is our way to become intimate with the Self. And this intimacy will ultimately be our Gift and Blessing to not only to guide us through lessons, but also to guide us to events, people, food, exercise etc that will light our path, enhance our joy, and satiate our senses in a healthy balanced manner while hiking the trail we call Life.





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