Self Love ... or Self Indulgence

We are in the generation of "You deserve it."  This usually means, a vacation, a new car, more money etc.  All lower body indulgences. Lower body?! Aren't we human? Isn't it sacred to be human?  Yes all that is true, however while lower body desires can be part of  the stairway to enlightenment,  they can easily become a trap leading to obsessions and distractions. Balance is not only key, it is truly the only path to self care and self love.

Balance. is not a static state. It is an awareness, a state of being. It is the ability to tune into your being-ness and determine what is needed at this moment in time for body, mind, and spirit. Do you need a sexual encounter? Do you need some celibacy to re-center? Will meditation help you now, or a vacation?  This is not easily done.  If you are living with old childhood wounds, you will tend to be an addict or obsessive (generally speaking).  This means you will lean towards lower body satisfactions (food, alcohol, sex, excitement in activities, drama in life, lying as a way of protecting yourself, etc) in order to soothe or bury your unhealed emotions.  If you do not have a spiritual practice, typically your ego will run your thinking and influence your reasoning abilities.  In fact, some people seek out spirituality as an escape and become rigid and obsessive as a kind of  avoidance. Typically what we seek to avoid is unhealed pain. This brings us to shadow work.

Shadow work is that which looks into the dusty and dark corners of our emotions, experiences, expectations, belief systems and more.  We all do shadow work.... it is called Life. However when we consciously choose to become aware or awakened, we approach shadow work with humor, compassion, and using spiritual guidance. Yin and Yang. Light and dark. It is the contrasts that make life, incarnated on Earth, so delicious. A rich tapestry, a recipe of textures, tastes, smells, sensations. A constantly changing ocean of opportunities and experiences. Avoid shadow work and you will find your self feeding lower body desires in a futile attempt to not feel or escape feelings.

"I deserve it" statements are a red flag that ego and lower body desires are running your life.  "This feels right, or good for me right now" is a good way to take care of the self.  Balance is the true key to self love. Keeping your self, body/mind/spirit in balance is self love. And balance is an art form, an ever changing endeavor like surfing or walking.  Balance is the space between contrasts.

Practice self love. Be ware of self indulgence.  Journey on.


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