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The "rush" of "meant to be"

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  The “rush” of “Meant to be” I don’t think so. Whether you have decided you just met your twin flame soul mate, or your heart’s guru, if you are in a hormonal adrenalin rush you are reacting to a chemical high and that high can mean many things.   Actually, the love you feel for your “meant to be”   “soul mate” or “guru” will not be a tornado, will not rock your world (or your center) but instead will roll in like a sunrise, many sunrises.   The energy can be strong, but it will also definitely be soft, gradual, filled with nuances that you could not even have imagined and therefore could not have “manifested”. It is a love that is revealed to you. Not an energy that traps you in a whirlwind high.   People who rush into energy traps, will then justify the often (and usually) dramatic ending to these kind of relationships with some new age jargon without examining their own dysfunction, lessons learned, the hidden greed inside of them that caused the addictive response to the “

Start Where You Are

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Start Where You Are Recently there was a local event here for “seeing ghosts”. There was “measuring equipment” and phenomena occurred such as lights going on and off as well as the “measurement equipment” buzzing. Some of the ghost busters were there to interpret what was happening with the ghosts for all the participants. There were forty people there.   Earlier in the week there was a presentation with music, drumming, visualization and reflective art or writing, all with a music therapist with over 8 years of training and education and experience in using the vibration of music (the science of   music and its vibrations as well as the energy and spirit of vibrational music) and there were 8 people there.   I was profoundly confounded until a later conversation with someone who sponsors “new age events” (including hosting the ghost busting event) helped me to clarify. As she put it, people like entertainment; they do not like doing any work. So if you can offer an “experience” t

How to Trust Your Teacher

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How to Trust Your Teacher If you have a Spiritual Teacher, how do you know you can trust him/her? Weren’t you told to trust yourself first?   Wait, how do you know you can trust your therapist, or even your doctor? Especially with all the sexual assault cases coming to light with doctors, it is scary to think that someone who is supposed to be your protector, care-giver, or mentor will use that position to manipulate you into a situation that is abusive, sometime violently abusive.   Thinking about this can be horrifying, but so is not thinking about it. This is (as I always state) a complex subject that cannot be fully addressed in a short article.   I write these articles not only to arouse the consciousness, mindfulness and thinking abilities of people, but also to help you understand how I work with such subjects should you read one of these articles and realize you need some assistance to recover or get to a better balance point. Reading these articles, it is just informat

The Wounded Vulnerable Narcissist

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The Wounded Vulnerable Narcissist Many people are very self-critical and most, while acknowledging   they might indeed feel this way “sometimes”,   seem to be reluctant to do any work on these feelings or behaviors, other than “being positive” about themselves. And usually this means that “being positive” is the generic feel good kind of “thing” rather than being specific and realistic. Generic feel good statements (given either through self –talk or as complements from friends and new age teachers) are really not useful other than a quick hit of feel good emotions and perhaps as a distraction from some current uncomfortable emotions or challenges. For some reason, people seem to feel that if they actually go into their feelings, rather than continuing to bury them and attempting to live on top of what will become a self-perpetuating swamp land, that they are now being “negative” or perhaps will in fact “manifest” negativity (all the new age nonsense jargon).   People speaking in