Selfless Giving
Selfless Giving People give for many reasons, often the reasons are not balanced or healthy however, it sure “looks good” in the public eye to be a “giver.” People give as a way of control. They offer to do things for others or for organizations as this puts them “in the middle” of what is happening and forces others to come to them for advice, or to check in with procedures etc. It makes them feel important and gives them a (false) purpose in life. It also can be a way for people to have something to talk about (gossip really) by inserting themselves into what they imagine as the “inner circle” of some other person’s or organization’s business. Many people create an identity for themselves by “being close” to someone they have decided is important, or amazing. In the music industry this used to be called being a groupie. In that industry, sex was usually involved, but this also happens in the “guru” industry as well where people have sex with a guru as a way to insinuate th