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Love Affairs, Marriage, Spirit: Honesty

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Love Affairs:  We love courtship, flirting, hormones, desire, dreams come true. When this kind of  "weather" manifests in our life it is like a sunny day on the beach after a long winter.  To me, all emotions are weather-- to be enjoyed thoroughly, or handled, knowing it will always be changing. Most of us cannot live at a constant level of arousal for years  Some people can, and indeed are meant to live in that velocity and we will see that in their Life Chart and that path,  like all things, has both good  and rough sides.  Spiritual development is indeed a love affair. We  "wake up" -- not just once, but many times. However it can also mature into a marriage. And just like in any great marriage, we rediscover the intense feelings of connection as we continue to mature.  Great marriages take time, personal investment, creativity, money, willingness to take chances, willing to feel feelings, able to make mistakes and get over it, the desire to make a successful r

Dark Knight of the Penis

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Dark Knight of the Penis I hope this narrative helps others. By sharing our experiences, strength and  hope, we help each other to become braver....brave enough to grow. Growing almost always means leaving something behind, giving up old bad behaviors and thought patterns.  While growth ultimately brings us a better quality of life, there is some sadness and loneliness when you step into new territory, sometimes all by yourself, until you find some new friends. I have heard stories of male gurus, teachers, etc. sleeping with women under their care. Not all, but many. And to be fair, there are stories these days of women doing the same with young men, and same sex stories as well. The bigger topic here is a look at the ethics of being a helper person, and how to be on the receiving end of help or support, while paying attention to red flags and boundaries.  When do we set boundaries?   One does not want to be too paranoid, however waiting too long might give the one the wrong me